Picture it: a full room of people and a juke box. By the juke box stands a woman who is singing to the world like no one is listening…dancing, singing at the top of her lungs, and the look of enjoyment on her face.
People begin to giggle likely due to their lack of self-confidence to get up and do the same. Without missing a note, she turns to them and just shakes it off. This is a confident woman who is comfortable and brave enough in her own skin to let her voice be heard.
Most of us couldn’t shake the amount of vulnerability off to do this…. I know I wouldn’t.
But this woman, as confident as she seems, has a secret: she can’t stand the sight of herself in the mirror. She has the most repulsive little voice in her head that she can’t seem to quiet, and is blind to the true confidence and beauty she possesses. An unsatisfactory image of herself that will never be good enough plagues her mind.
It is difficult to make the connection between someone who can sing like no one is listening, yet can’t quiet the nasty voice inside her head. The contradiction presents two separate women: the hard exterior that won’t let public opinion derail her and the soft interior that falls victim to her own verbal abuse.
How could we possibly see such darkness in someone who is so well versed in showing us their light? It’s not easy, but it starts with looking at our self.
Think back to the juke box scene I described: at any point did you think “that’s me” or “I know how she feels”? Or perhaps you thought about someone you know that has opened up to you about this very thing.
As humans, we have become quite good at disguising our true feelings in fear of embarrassment. We wonder what someone will say and how they will judge us. Even worse, doubt that we’re enough, and we rarely let our true selves be seen. It’s not until we dig deep and notice these things, facing our own demons, will we be able to find those demons in others.
Facing these demons isn’t going to be pretty. To be honest it will be downright frustrating at times, but cutting the chains from the nasty voice in your head is so liberating, that it will make the journey worthwhile. It’s like holding your breath under water —that moment where you reach the surface and take an energizing inhale is the moment you feel free from your own worst enemy.
The journey will be long and strenuous but it begins with one belief: you are enough. Once you can truly believe that, you’ll begin to reach your full potential.